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How to Masturbate if You Have Never Tried Before - Flirtbate

By Flirtbate · May 29, 2026

How to Masturbate if You Have Never Tried Before - Flirtbate

Almost everyone asks themselves at least once whether they can or should masturbate. If you have not done it before, it may seem strange, uncomfortable, or even downright intimidating. You may ask yourself, “What am I supposed to do? How can I masturbate without feeling weird? How can I cum the first time without feeling weird?

The reality of the matter is that there is no “right” or “correct” approach to exploring self sex. Everybody learns differently, and it is a personal experience. For some, the discovery of what they love comes naturally, for others, it takes a bit of time to be relaxed and confident. And that’s completely normal.

You do not have to do anything drastic, either. Actually, lots of individuals begin without watching adult videos and masturbate with the goal of concentrating on themselves and their responses, rather than comparing themselves to the unrealistic material they find online.

If you are interested in masturbation to relax, to have solo fun, or just to get to know your body, do the following:

 

Start by Getting Comfortable and Relaxed

 

Creating a place where you can be relaxed and uninhibited is the first step in learning how to masturbate. The experience becomes uncomfortable when done in a place where you are concerned that someone might interrupt.

When masturbating, it is essential to be in a private and comfortable place that will enable you to explore solo pleasure without pressure.

Others like to masturbate while lying in bed, while others do it in the shower. There is no right or wrong preparation. In essence, you have to be in a place or position that makes your body feel so relaxed that it reacts naturally during self sex.

Just like some people get nervous when they chat with girls, it is also okay to be nervous when masturbating for the first time.

 

Learn What Feels Good by Exploring Slowly

 

One thing that many beginners do wrong is to rush through the experience. Patience is more important than speed when learning to masturbate men or anyone for that matter.

Try touching yourself slowly and see how it feels in each of the sensitive areas. Everyone reacts differently to pressure, rhythm, and mood, so there really is no one right or wrong way to masturbate.

It’s sort of like picking up a new song on an instrument. You do not play flawlessly out of the box; you do some trial and error and start to feel comfortable and natural. It is the same with masturbation.

Others may engage in fantasizing, imagining, or reminiscing about an attraction to focus. There are others who choose to masturbate without porn, as it enables them to focus more on their body’s sensations than on the images.

 

Focus on Pleasure Instead of Trying to Cum Quickly

Focus on Pleasure Instead of Trying to Cum Quickly

 

When it comes to learning how to cum as quickly as possible, one of the most common queries of beginners is how to do so. It’s ironic, but if you really try to make it to the end, then you may find it to be a stressful experience.

Rather, try to savor the sensations themselves. Breathe easily, be patient and allow your body to react spontaneously. There is a difference between masturbating and a race or performance test! The more you try, the more you might feel like you can’t let go of the moment.

This is particularly crucial when trying to learn how to masturbate without porn, as there will be less external input to control the experience. You start to feel more connected to your own thoughts, touch and reactions.

Some people experience an orgasm in a short amount of time. In early experiences for others, it takes longer. Both are absolutely normal when they are exploring self sex for the first time.

 

Experiment and Discover What Works Best for You

 

The last step is to realize masturbation is personal. Things that are effective for one person can be very different for another.

In time, you will start to see what feels good when you are masturbating. Others may like soft touch, others may like the firm pressure, and others may like different pacing. One of the most important lessons that can be learned when teaching men how to masturbate is to be patient and experiment instead of copying expectations.

And remember, people are different. Some get excited to masturbate when they chat with girls, while others seek comfort and solitude in exploring on their own. Neither is  right nor wrong.

Arguably, you will feel less awkward as you gain more confidence and a greater understanding of your body.

 

Conclusion

 

Masturbation can be awkward at first, but it’s simply a matter of getting to know your body – a bit without the pressure or judgment. Don’t rush; relax, be calm and comfortable.

Whether you are interested in learning how to masturbate or how to cum comfortably for the first time, take it easy on yourself.

Everyone’s journey through self sex will be different, and there’s no single roadmap to figuring out what’s best for you.